Low self esteem?

Objection: Only a woman with low self-esteem or mental problems would want to serve as a sex slave for a man…

This is a common objection and it is based on common assumptions. The same things are said about prostitutes. People will say that only “damaged” women – women with low self-esteem, poor self-image or personality disorders - would work as prostitutes. The reality, however, is otherwise. While there are, of course, “damaged” women in the sex trade, along with drug-users, illegal immigrants, schizophrenics and others, working as prostitutes, there are, in fact, plenty of sane, sensible, well-adjusted, attractive women in the business. They turn to prostitution for many reasons, in some cases because they actually like the work.

Similarly, among odalisques you will find sane, sensible, well-adjusted, attractive women who just happen to find the odalisque lifestyle – a lifestyle of sexual service – rewarding. For some ‘vanilla’ or mainstream people this is inconceivable. They cannot imagine it themselves, and they think everybody else is like them. In reality, the world is a big, wide diverse place and human beings are, in reality, a strange, variegated, peculiar species that is full of surprises. It takes all kinds. There ARE women who love working as prostitutes, and there ARE women who love serving a Slavekeeper as his odalisque. They are not mentally deficient. They are not pathetic, crushed victims.

It is a stereotype to think that any woman who gives her body to men must be “craving attention” or “needs sex for self-affirmation…”, and so on. These days everyone is an amateur psychologist with psychological theories about everyone and everything. We need to remember that people are diverse. Just because I cannot imagine how or why someone else has made certain life-choices does not mean that they are pathetic or crazy. To say “Only a woman with low self-esteem or mental problems would want to serve as a sex slave for a man…” is to indulge in narrow stereotyped thinking that does not take account of the realities of human diversity.

It is true – let us admit – that there is a danger that women of low self-esteem or mental health issues might be lured into sex slave lifestyles and be damaged by it. Just as such women are liable to be used by pimps as street whores and be damaged by it. But it is simply not true that all women who are attracted by the odalisque lifestyle are in that category. We always concede that the odalisque lifestyle is only for a rare breed of woman. True odalisques are rare. But there are such women, and they prosper and thrive in the odalisque role. It is insulting and belittling, patronizing, to say to her, “You poor thing. You must hate yourself to be serving men sexually…”

The odalisque is a noble creature. She is proud to be an odalisque. She serves her Keeper because this is what she wants to do, longs to do. She is sane and has chosen this lifestyle, entering the state of occlusion willingly and in full knowledge.

If some people cannot imagine how this could possibly be so, it is only because of their narrow view of human diversity. Most people cannot imagine that some women enjoy being whipped and burnt with hot wax on their tits – and yet some women do! Again, it takes all kinds.