Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Simplicity - a letter

We received a very nice letter from a woman named Jillian recently who relates that she lived as an odalisque to her husband and Master (John) for several years before her lifestyle was interupted by a cancer scare and other health issues. They found Code d' Odalisque through a link on Humbled Females and, she says, knew straight away that it was what they were looking for. Like many other correspondents, Jillian relates that she spent years dabbling with female submissive lifestyles in the BDSM community but was always put off by the expectation that sadomasochism and 'power exchange' is the norm. She was looking for a sexually submissive role that did not assume she was into being whipped, tortured and beaten. Her husband/master (John), moreover, is not a "dom" as such, but an "ordinary guy" into sex more than he is into power. She says that he always felt unwelcome in the local BDSM scene where he was regarded as "vanilla". They also felt themselves to be outsiders in much of the 'humbled females' community too because Jillian was not looking for the 'traditional housewife' model either. She didn't want to be a whipping horse for sadomasochists, and she didn't want to be a domestic drudge. Her subsmissiveness is sexual. She is a sexual submissive. She loves to be used, sexually. Code d' Odalisque provided them with an alternative model and gave them a wealth of ideas and inspiration with which to construct a lifestyle suited to them. She wrote to thank us for offering this and to report what a rewarding experience it was for both of them.

The letter serves as a reminder that there are now lots of people thinly dispersed around the globe who have adopted all or some of Code d' Ode and who are actively exploring this lifestyle but are doing so in private. Consequently, we have no idea just how many players there are. Until Jillian wrote to us we had no idea she and her husband were practising odalisque slavery. How many other couples are out there using Code d' Odalisque to make themselves an odalisque lifestyle? We are aware of and correspond with numerous players, but since the Code is readily available on the internet we cannot even estimate how many people have found it and taken it up in the privacy of their marriage/relationship. It is gratifying to realise that there are many more players involved in Code d' Ode than we know about. We are always very happy to hear from slaves or slavekeepers, always happy to exchange notes and ideas and to offer support and assistance to new players.

One point Jillian makes in her letter needs underlining. She writes that, for her, the great joy of being an odalisque was in the simplicity of the lifestyle. This is what other women have reported to us too. Life for the modern women is complex and demanding. There are the demands of marriage, family, work, domestic economy, education. Every woman is expected to be super-woman who can do and have it all. Jillian describes herself as a "sensitive" woman not suited to the highly competitive world of the uber-successful woman. She relates that she experienced a "breakdown" at college when she was younger because of the "stress" and spent years being misdiagnosed and medicated by "head-shrinkers" before her life changed and she met her husband. The best thing about living as an odalisque, she says, is that she was relieved of all her other duties except the duty of satisfying her Master sexually. It was "what I wanted all along... not... for all my life [but] the relief of not juggling a thousand things for a few years..." came as an "enormous weight" lifted from her. She relates her frustration. "Everyone always say you can do it and is full of positive thinking..." but she felt it was like "telling a man in a wheelchair to walk." She was simply ill-equipped for the ridiculous demands being made on her. So it was "salvation" to retire into occlusion as an odalisque. It was the simplicity of the lifestyle that attracted her most. The odalisque has no other tasks. She is kept for sex. Her Master keeps her, provides for her. She is not required to wash or cook or shop. She is not a domestic servant. And nor is she required to work a job and make money. She is kept and pampered and her duties are reduced to the single task of serving her Master's bed. It is a supremely uncomplicated existence free of the demands and expectations to be a wife/mother/graduate/businesswoman/lover/colleague/citizen etc. imposed upon the supposedly "liberated" modern woman. For women like Jillian it is liberating to be just an "object" and nothing more and to have a simple life of lust, pleasure and sexual indulgence. Imagine if all you had to do in life was fuck.

This, we realise, is the great attraction of Code d' Odalisque. It offers women like Jillian another alternative. Modern life can be tough and cruel for "sensitive" females. Such women can be brutalized in the modern workplace. BDSM is no solution, and neither is the 'traditional wife' role. But life in occlusion as an odalisque is beautifully simple. The odalisque is directed to a single task. She can live without a care. She has no responsibilities. It is a stress-free life of pleasure and service. Certainly, it is not for all women, and no one supposes that it is. But there are clearly women for whom this is an ideal lifestyle, if only for a few years in their life. We are happy to hear from women like Jillian - it assures us that Code d' Ode is making a positive change and offering a different possibility for sexually submissive females. That is what its mission was from the outset.

We'd love to hear from people who are using Code d' Odalisque (in whole or in part) in their private lives. Tell us your story. Write to us at: bedroomslaves@yahoo.com

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