Friday, August 5, 2011
Friendship
It is a little acknowledged fact of contemporary life that all bonds and relationships have tended to merge into a non-descript sludge usually covered by the word “friend”. Husbands are no longer husbands to their wives, but rather try to be “friends”. Wives are no longer wives, merely “friends” to their husbands. The modern parent doesn’t want to be Dad or Mom to their children – they want to be “friends” with their kids. The modern boss wants to be “friends” with his employees. Teachers want to be “friends” with their students. And so on. All relationships are reduced to “friendship”.
Of course, friendship in itself is a fine and honourable thing – but it should be between friends and it should not consume all other relations. Yet that is what has happened.
It is a cardinal mistake to treat an odalisque as a “friend”. A Slavekeeper should not treat his slave as a “friend”. If he needs friendship, he should seek it in friends, not in his slave. A slave should be treated as a slave. The Keeper treats her with compassion and proper care, but he keeps her in her place.
Similarly, a slave should not look to her Keeper as her “friend”. He is her Keeper and she should have a realistic appreciation of what such a bond entails.
Odalisque slavery is not for the purposes of friendship and companionship. It is not a cure for loneliness. Both Keeper and slave should understand the nature of odalisque slavery. The Keeper must act as slavekeeper and he must treat his slave as a slave. The slave, for her part, is obedient, deferential, compliant, humble like a slave. She is never familiar like a friend.
Moreover, Master and slave have a deep and mutual respect, a level of respect that goes beyond merely “friends”. It is a bond built on the slave’s dedication to selfless service and the Keeper’s commitment to consent and safety. “Friend” is a shallow relation by comparison.
Code d’ Odalisque delineates the form and dynamics of the Keeper/odalisque bond. An appropriate level of formality and etiquette prevents relations from degenerating into the sludge of mere “friends”. The Code works to keep Slavekeepers as Slavekeepers and slaves as slaves without such roles and distinctions collapsing into a bland niceness of contemporary “friendship”.
Of course, friendship in itself is a fine and honourable thing – but it should be between friends and it should not consume all other relations. Yet that is what has happened.
It is a cardinal mistake to treat an odalisque as a “friend”. A Slavekeeper should not treat his slave as a “friend”. If he needs friendship, he should seek it in friends, not in his slave. A slave should be treated as a slave. The Keeper treats her with compassion and proper care, but he keeps her in her place.
Similarly, a slave should not look to her Keeper as her “friend”. He is her Keeper and she should have a realistic appreciation of what such a bond entails.
Odalisque slavery is not for the purposes of friendship and companionship. It is not a cure for loneliness. Both Keeper and slave should understand the nature of odalisque slavery. The Keeper must act as slavekeeper and he must treat his slave as a slave. The slave, for her part, is obedient, deferential, compliant, humble like a slave. She is never familiar like a friend.
Moreover, Master and slave have a deep and mutual respect, a level of respect that goes beyond merely “friends”. It is a bond built on the slave’s dedication to selfless service and the Keeper’s commitment to consent and safety. “Friend” is a shallow relation by comparison.
Code d’ Odalisque delineates the form and dynamics of the Keeper/odalisque bond. An appropriate level of formality and etiquette prevents relations from degenerating into the sludge of mere “friends”. The Code works to keep Slavekeepers as Slavekeepers and slaves as slaves without such roles and distinctions collapsing into a bland niceness of contemporary “friendship”.
Thursday, August 4, 2011
Monomania
An odalisque serves cock. Her training and her lifestyle induce in her a single-minded devotion to this duty. She is phallocentric. Building upon her natural instincts, she is trained to love and adore and worship cock. Obsession, monomania - these are themes in Code d' Odalisque. This is achieved without recourse to pain. Instead we use (consensual) psychological control techniques to bring the odalisque to a state of dedicated service driven by phallic monomania, addiction and obsession.
How often?
How often, on average, would an odalisque have to service her Master?
There is no single answer to such a question: there is too much variation between cases. On the whole, though, the answer to the question is: often. An odalisque is dedicated to sexual service. Much will depend upon the temperament of her Keeper, but in general an odalisque can expect to serve her Keeper sexually very often – that is why a man keeps an odalisque and that is what odalisques are for. This might mean service every day, or more often.
Let us recall that odalisque slavery is about sexual exploration. It necessarily involves frequent and often intense sexual activity. Any woman who consents to live an odalisque’s life must expect frequent and often intense sexual activity.
There are certain other factors that need to be considered:
Usually under Code d’ Ode a Slavekeeper can share his slave with other gentlemen. This will increase the frequency of her service.
Under the articles of the Code a slave is entitled to sex-free days. A Keeper cannot put her to excessive use. She is also exempt from service during menstruation.
In practice, it is notable to us that the problem most often encountered is that slaves are not put to enough use. Excessive use is not the problem. The problem is that Keepers lack the stamina and imagination to put a slave to frequent use. Slaves get bored and are under utilized. Slavekeepers must endeavour to put their slave to regular use - a slave also has the right to be used.
There is no single answer to such a question: there is too much variation between cases. On the whole, though, the answer to the question is: often. An odalisque is dedicated to sexual service. Much will depend upon the temperament of her Keeper, but in general an odalisque can expect to serve her Keeper sexually very often – that is why a man keeps an odalisque and that is what odalisques are for. This might mean service every day, or more often.
Let us recall that odalisque slavery is about sexual exploration. It necessarily involves frequent and often intense sexual activity. Any woman who consents to live an odalisque’s life must expect frequent and often intense sexual activity.
There are certain other factors that need to be considered:
Usually under Code d’ Ode a Slavekeeper can share his slave with other gentlemen. This will increase the frequency of her service.
Under the articles of the Code a slave is entitled to sex-free days. A Keeper cannot put her to excessive use. She is also exempt from service during menstruation.
In practice, it is notable to us that the problem most often encountered is that slaves are not put to enough use. Excessive use is not the problem. The problem is that Keepers lack the stamina and imagination to put a slave to frequent use. Slaves get bored and are under utilized. Slavekeepers must endeavour to put their slave to regular use - a slave also has the right to be used.
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Fantasy projection exercise
The basis of Master/slave dynamics in Code d' Odalisque is "fantasy projection". The odalisque is a passive materia upon which the male (Slavekeeper) projects his "inner female", his inner fantasy woman. The odalisque makes herself - and allows herself to be made into - the woman of her Keeper's dreams. An odalisque does not pursue her own fantasies. She makes herself a willing puppet to be used in her Keeper's fantasies. Her task is to make herself into the fantasy female her Keeper has always dreamed about. In effect, she becomes a SCREEN.
Here is an exercise in fantasy projection:
The Keeper introduces the slave to his fantasy. He fantasizes about cumming (ejaculating) down a woman's throat. In this fantasy the woman kneels on the floor, holds her head back, opens her mouth wide, and he cums down her throat. He must be clear in his own mind exactly how he fantasizes doing this.
The slave is then instructed in how she must think about this fantasy. Her job is to make this fantasy real. She must be the Keeper's fantasy female. So the question must be, what exactly is this female like? and how exactly does she do this sex act? Questions: Is her tongue out? Are her eyes open? Is her hair tied back? How far back is her head tilted?
The slave next starts to demonstrate various postures to her Keeper, hoping to imitate the fantasy female. The Keeper is only allowed to say "yes" or "no". The slave shows him how she holds her mouth open, eyes shut. He says no. Eyes open. He says yes. And so on. The slave must try to work out exactly how his fantasy goes. In the end the slave might discover that in his fantasy the woman has her tongue out, eyes open and intense, hair unruly, head so far back it is almost straining.
In this exercise the slave tries various positions, the Keeper says yea or nay, until the slave can determine EXACTLY how to render her Keeper's fantasy a reality.
Now she can be a FANTASY PROJECTION. She can so approximate the man's fantasy that he effortlessly projects the scene onto her. To be an effective SCREEN for fantasy projection the slave must watch and learn carefully and try as far as possible to be an accurate rendering of the fantasy female of the man she serves.
Fantasy projection is what happens when fantasy meets reality, when the slave so nearly corresponds to her Keeper's imagination that he PROJECTS his vision onto her. The slave makes herself a passive screen for this projection. That is the dynamics of slave play in Code d' Odalisque.
Here is an exercise in fantasy projection:
The Keeper introduces the slave to his fantasy. He fantasizes about cumming (ejaculating) down a woman's throat. In this fantasy the woman kneels on the floor, holds her head back, opens her mouth wide, and he cums down her throat. He must be clear in his own mind exactly how he fantasizes doing this.
The slave is then instructed in how she must think about this fantasy. Her job is to make this fantasy real. She must be the Keeper's fantasy female. So the question must be, what exactly is this female like? and how exactly does she do this sex act? Questions: Is her tongue out? Are her eyes open? Is her hair tied back? How far back is her head tilted?
The slave next starts to demonstrate various postures to her Keeper, hoping to imitate the fantasy female. The Keeper is only allowed to say "yes" or "no". The slave shows him how she holds her mouth open, eyes shut. He says no. Eyes open. He says yes. And so on. The slave must try to work out exactly how his fantasy goes. In the end the slave might discover that in his fantasy the woman has her tongue out, eyes open and intense, hair unruly, head so far back it is almost straining.
In this exercise the slave tries various positions, the Keeper says yea or nay, until the slave can determine EXACTLY how to render her Keeper's fantasy a reality.
Now she can be a FANTASY PROJECTION. She can so approximate the man's fantasy that he effortlessly projects the scene onto her. To be an effective SCREEN for fantasy projection the slave must watch and learn carefully and try as far as possible to be an accurate rendering of the fantasy female of the man she serves.
Fantasy projection is what happens when fantasy meets reality, when the slave so nearly corresponds to her Keeper's imagination that he PROJECTS his vision onto her. The slave makes herself a passive screen for this projection. That is the dynamics of slave play in Code d' Odalisque.
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
Exercise
Instruct the slave to do the following exercise on a regular basis. It concerns expansion and contraction. The motto 'Fathomless lust, perfect obedience' describes the contrast of expansion and contraction. Lust/obedience. Slave play and slave training can be constructed around these tensions. Over time this simple exercise in identity is surprisingly effective.
Let the slave create two characters, Jill and Jane. Jill is chaste, a-sexual, frigid, almost a nun. Jane is the opposite. She is lascivious and cock-lusting, cock-crazy.
Let the slave sit naked in front of a mirror in candelight. She stares at her own face in the mirror.
As she continues staring let her first be Jill - cold, non-sexual. She sits there looking at herself in the mirror, knowing herself to be Jill, non-sexual, anti-sexual, cold.
Then, at any point she feels like doing so, she changes into Jane. Now she is sitting looking at herself knowing herself to be Jane – horny, promiscuous, lewd.
Then back to Jill.
Then back to Jane.
Throughout, the slave does not move. She keeps watching herself in the mirror. Jill and Jane look identical. There is no outward change in appearance. The change is internal only. It is just a shift of mind. She changes from Jill to Jane and back again without changing her facial expression at all.
Let her watch her face passively. Let her keep watching her face in the mirror as first she becomes frigid Jill and then becomes lascivious Jane.
Let her be able to move in and out of both characters with ease by a simple change of internal identity. She should be able to turn Jill and Jane on and off like a switch.
This can be a potent exercise. It is recommended. We have seen its effectiveness. It helps the slave move between the contrasting polarity: fathomless lust and perfect obedience. Between loose and restricted. Between expansion and contraction. Depravity and discipline.
Let the slave create two characters, Jill and Jane. Jill is chaste, a-sexual, frigid, almost a nun. Jane is the opposite. She is lascivious and cock-lusting, cock-crazy.
Let the slave sit naked in front of a mirror in candelight. She stares at her own face in the mirror.
As she continues staring let her first be Jill - cold, non-sexual. She sits there looking at herself in the mirror, knowing herself to be Jill, non-sexual, anti-sexual, cold.
Then, at any point she feels like doing so, she changes into Jane. Now she is sitting looking at herself knowing herself to be Jane – horny, promiscuous, lewd.
Then back to Jill.
Then back to Jane.
Throughout, the slave does not move. She keeps watching herself in the mirror. Jill and Jane look identical. There is no outward change in appearance. The change is internal only. It is just a shift of mind. She changes from Jill to Jane and back again without changing her facial expression at all.
Let her watch her face passively. Let her keep watching her face in the mirror as first she becomes frigid Jill and then becomes lascivious Jane.
Let her be able to move in and out of both characters with ease by a simple change of internal identity. She should be able to turn Jill and Jane on and off like a switch.
This can be a potent exercise. It is recommended. We have seen its effectiveness. It helps the slave move between the contrasting polarity: fathomless lust and perfect obedience. Between loose and restricted. Between expansion and contraction. Depravity and discipline.
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