Code d' Odalisque makes explicit provision for proper accommodation for the female cockslave. Ordinary slaves (memlooks) have no such rights, but an odalisque is a very special creature and is deserving of special treatment. This includes the right to her own room – formally called an “odella”.
The odella need not be very spacious or luxurious in itself, but it is nevertheless the slave's right. It is her space, her refuge, and a place where she can expect comfort, recreation and privacy. It should be heated appropriately, with good ventilation and meet other civilized standards. An odalisque is not a dog. She should not be kept like one. An odella is not a kennel. It should be clean and comfortable, above all.
It should be equipped with a decent bed, pillows, linen and other appropriate furnishings – perhaps a desk, perhaps a TV or DVD player, perhaps a computer, etc. It should not be cold, bleak and spartan. Slavekeepers should put some thought into what provisions should be made. Ideally, there should be ready access to a bathroom, mirrors etc. that an odalisque requires if she is to keep herself as an object of beauty and desire for her Master.
Importantly, an odella is her space. It is not a sexual arena as such. It is a place to which she can retire after sexual service. The sexual arena in Code d' Odalisque is called the “saray”, that is, the Slavekeeper's playroom. The Code makes a clear distinction. The slave has her odella. The Keeper has his saray. See the Code for further details.
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Sunday, May 9, 2010
Do ordinary people play?
Question: I'm pretty vanilla. I've only just got on to this “Master/slave” stuff. It seems a bit extreme and transgressive. What's the attraction? Do ordinary, normal people really get into this?
Answer: Consensual slavery is a mode of adult play in today's alternative adult culture. Yes, ordinary, 'normal' people play Master/slave games, businesspeople, educated professionals, teachers, doctors, lawyers, plumbers... you'd be surprised. Such people are not usually motivated by a desire to transgress or to offend society's rules. The attraction is that the Master/slave relationship allows the exploration of a wider range of erotic possibilities. The vanilla relationship with its emphasis on equality and partnership is great for certain things but to people given to dominant/submissive traits it can be stifling and can amount to a denial of their erotic nature. Consensual slavery supposes that some people are naturally dominant (Masters) and some are naturally submissive (slaves) and that both can find fulfilment in a proper, mature Master/slave relationship that is built upon consent and trust. Some people explore this on a part-time basis as a game or hobby while others take it more seriously and develop it into a lifestyle. How hardcore or how vanilla you make it is up to you.
Code d' odalisque is a specifically sexual style of slave play. The odalisque is a sexual slave, not a workslave and not a domestic slave. She is a bedroom slave who serves her Master's bed. People get into this style of play/lifestyle in order to explore a wider range of sexual desires and fantasies than is possible in a plain vanilla relationship. It is specifically heterosexual. It is for sexually submissive females and sexually dominant males. It offers them a framework in which they can explore their submissive/dominant natures subject to a Code of rules designed to ensure civil, legal, ethical, non-violent play that protects all parties at all times. It is a celebration of female beauty and phallic sexuality without sado-masochism. It combines an arena for hedonistic pleasures and hardcore sexual enjoyment in combination with grace, good-taste, etiquette and elegance. It is not for everyone, but today there is a growing community of “Code d'Oders” worldwide.
Answer: Consensual slavery is a mode of adult play in today's alternative adult culture. Yes, ordinary, 'normal' people play Master/slave games, businesspeople, educated professionals, teachers, doctors, lawyers, plumbers... you'd be surprised. Such people are not usually motivated by a desire to transgress or to offend society's rules. The attraction is that the Master/slave relationship allows the exploration of a wider range of erotic possibilities. The vanilla relationship with its emphasis on equality and partnership is great for certain things but to people given to dominant/submissive traits it can be stifling and can amount to a denial of their erotic nature. Consensual slavery supposes that some people are naturally dominant (Masters) and some are naturally submissive (slaves) and that both can find fulfilment in a proper, mature Master/slave relationship that is built upon consent and trust. Some people explore this on a part-time basis as a game or hobby while others take it more seriously and develop it into a lifestyle. How hardcore or how vanilla you make it is up to you.
Code d' odalisque is a specifically sexual style of slave play. The odalisque is a sexual slave, not a workslave and not a domestic slave. She is a bedroom slave who serves her Master's bed. People get into this style of play/lifestyle in order to explore a wider range of sexual desires and fantasies than is possible in a plain vanilla relationship. It is specifically heterosexual. It is for sexually submissive females and sexually dominant males. It offers them a framework in which they can explore their submissive/dominant natures subject to a Code of rules designed to ensure civil, legal, ethical, non-violent play that protects all parties at all times. It is a celebration of female beauty and phallic sexuality without sado-masochism. It combines an arena for hedonistic pleasures and hardcore sexual enjoyment in combination with grace, good-taste, etiquette and elegance. It is not for everyone, but today there is a growing community of “Code d'Oders” worldwide.
MEMLOOKS
MEMLOOKS
Code d' Odalisque makes a fundamental distinction between an odalisque and a 'memlook'. Here are the key points:
*A 'memlook' is a common slave, a low slave. An odalisque is a high slave, a specialised slave who has risen above the status of memlook.
*A memlook is a work slave. An odalisque is an erotic slave whose 'work' is the arts of love. An odalisque is spared from toil. She does not work. She is not a maid, a cook or a cleaner. Memlooks are domestic slaves.
*A memlook can be male or female whereas the role of odalisque (cockslave) is necessarily reserved for females. (Obviously, only a female can serve heterosexual Masters.)
*A memlook may be dressed and shod any way his/her Master chooses. Including in work clothes. An odalisque is essentially naked and barefooted.
*Memlooks can be used for sex, but they are not reserved for this role. An odalisque is dedicated to sexual service.
*An odalisque has many privileges not enjoyed by a memlook. For instance, she may eat with her Master. Usually a memlook would not be permitted at a Slavekeeper's table.
*Memlooks are not protected by the provisions of Code d' Odalisque. They have no rights under the Code. An odalisque has rights and is protected from violence and abuse. Memlooks have no such protection.
*Memlooks cannot be owned by odalisques but they can be made to serve odalisques. An odalisque, that is, can be served by another slave. This is one of the privileges of odalisques.
*Most slaves in contemporary BDSM play are probably best classified as memlooks. They can be included in Code play in this role. Females can be elevated into the higher status of 'odalisque'.
(The word 'memlook' is a corruption of 'Mamluke', an ethnic group once made slaves by the Arabs.)
Code d' Odalisque makes a fundamental distinction between an odalisque and a 'memlook'. Here are the key points:
*A 'memlook' is a common slave, a low slave. An odalisque is a high slave, a specialised slave who has risen above the status of memlook.
*A memlook is a work slave. An odalisque is an erotic slave whose 'work' is the arts of love. An odalisque is spared from toil. She does not work. She is not a maid, a cook or a cleaner. Memlooks are domestic slaves.
*A memlook can be male or female whereas the role of odalisque (cockslave) is necessarily reserved for females. (Obviously, only a female can serve heterosexual Masters.)
*A memlook may be dressed and shod any way his/her Master chooses. Including in work clothes. An odalisque is essentially naked and barefooted.
*Memlooks can be used for sex, but they are not reserved for this role. An odalisque is dedicated to sexual service.
*An odalisque has many privileges not enjoyed by a memlook. For instance, she may eat with her Master. Usually a memlook would not be permitted at a Slavekeeper's table.
*Memlooks are not protected by the provisions of Code d' Odalisque. They have no rights under the Code. An odalisque has rights and is protected from violence and abuse. Memlooks have no such protection.
*Memlooks cannot be owned by odalisques but they can be made to serve odalisques. An odalisque, that is, can be served by another slave. This is one of the privileges of odalisques.
*Most slaves in contemporary BDSM play are probably best classified as memlooks. They can be included in Code play in this role. Females can be elevated into the higher status of 'odalisque'.
(The word 'memlook' is a corruption of 'Mamluke', an ethnic group once made slaves by the Arabs.)
THE IMPORTANCE OF PURCHASE
THE IMPORTANCE OF PURCHASE
Couples in a Master/slave relationship will usually just agree upon the terms of that relationship or, at most, draw up a contract setting out the terms and limits of play. In Code d' Odalisque there is a contract system, too, but there is also a method by which a slave is “purchased” by a Master.
Needless to say, the real buying and selling of people is completely illegal and it must be stressed that Code d' Ode is a consensual game/lifestyle that in no way condones or legitimizes human trafficking. But for the purposes of slave play a slave is purchased, not taken freely.
This is important and it is one of the things that makes a slave a slave. A slut gives herself away for free. A whore is for rent. But a slave is purchased. Odalisques should be purchased. To take an odalisque for free is to treat her as a common slut and an insult to her. An odalisque should be proud of the fact that she is an odalisque and proud that she was purchased and not taken for free. Every odalisque has a slave price. Odalisque's are expensive items.
But, while the slave price prevails in theory, in practice these days the slave price is routinely commuted to alms. That is, the slaveprice is turned into charity. The requirement of purchase can be met in that way, and in fact this is how it is now done in every case. For legal reasons, no money can change hands. Instead, the slaveprice is converted into charity.
The Code d' Odalisque sets out the provisions for this. The Purchaser (Slavekeeper) must make a donation to a specific charity. This acts as the sale. It is only when he has made such a donation that his ownership and use of an odalisque is legitimate. The appropriate charities are those dedicated to fighting female genital mutilation and forced prostitution. The Slavekeeper makes a donation to the charity – this acts as the slaveprice.
See the Code for details. But it is important to understand the principle. By definition, slaves are purchased. In Code d' Ode we are always careful to distinguish slaves from sluts and whores. It is the slaveprice that makes a slave a true slave and not just a slut or a whore. It is the slaveprice that bestows the dignity of slavehood upon the slave. Odalisque is a noble institution. Paying for an odalisque is an important gesture that recognizes the nobility of the odalisque institution. To fail to pay for the ownership of an odalisque is an abuse and degrades the institution.
Again, gentlemen are urged to grasp the principle and consult the Code for details. Don't treat a slave like a slut.
Couples in a Master/slave relationship will usually just agree upon the terms of that relationship or, at most, draw up a contract setting out the terms and limits of play. In Code d' Odalisque there is a contract system, too, but there is also a method by which a slave is “purchased” by a Master.
Needless to say, the real buying and selling of people is completely illegal and it must be stressed that Code d' Ode is a consensual game/lifestyle that in no way condones or legitimizes human trafficking. But for the purposes of slave play a slave is purchased, not taken freely.
This is important and it is one of the things that makes a slave a slave. A slut gives herself away for free. A whore is for rent. But a slave is purchased. Odalisques should be purchased. To take an odalisque for free is to treat her as a common slut and an insult to her. An odalisque should be proud of the fact that she is an odalisque and proud that she was purchased and not taken for free. Every odalisque has a slave price. Odalisque's are expensive items.
But, while the slave price prevails in theory, in practice these days the slave price is routinely commuted to alms. That is, the slaveprice is turned into charity. The requirement of purchase can be met in that way, and in fact this is how it is now done in every case. For legal reasons, no money can change hands. Instead, the slaveprice is converted into charity.
The Code d' Odalisque sets out the provisions for this. The Purchaser (Slavekeeper) must make a donation to a specific charity. This acts as the sale. It is only when he has made such a donation that his ownership and use of an odalisque is legitimate. The appropriate charities are those dedicated to fighting female genital mutilation and forced prostitution. The Slavekeeper makes a donation to the charity – this acts as the slaveprice.
See the Code for details. But it is important to understand the principle. By definition, slaves are purchased. In Code d' Ode we are always careful to distinguish slaves from sluts and whores. It is the slaveprice that makes a slave a true slave and not just a slut or a whore. It is the slaveprice that bestows the dignity of slavehood upon the slave. Odalisque is a noble institution. Paying for an odalisque is an important gesture that recognizes the nobility of the odalisque institution. To fail to pay for the ownership of an odalisque is an abuse and degrades the institution.
Again, gentlemen are urged to grasp the principle and consult the Code for details. Don't treat a slave like a slut.
THE QUALITIES OF A SLAVEKEEPER
THE QUALITIES OF A SLAVEKEEPER
To be a successful Keeper of an odalisque a man needs certain qualities. One does not need to be a “Dom” in the technical sense and nor does one need a lot of experience in the Master/slave or dominant/submissive lifestyle, but there are certain traits that are essential. Not every man can be a Slavekeeper, anymore than every woman can be an odalisque. It requires aptitude and the right approach. Unfortunately, experience has shown that the necessary qualities are often in short supply in the modern man. It is often easier to find a woman suited to the odalisque role than it is to find a man suited to be a Slavemaster. Here are some of the key qualities that a man needs if he is to consider owning an odalisque:
Sanity
A Slavekeeper needs to be sane and stable. It is a sad fact that many guys who trawl the BDSM scene are neither. Guys who have a history of mental illness and related disorders such as delusions of grandeur are disqualified.
Peacefulness
A Slavekeeper must be able to hold his peace. Guys with short tempers or who are prone to bouts of anger or violence are disqualified. A Keeper must have a deep and lasting commitment to the principle of peace in personal relations. Guys with a history of domestic violence don't make the grade.
Sexuality
A Slavekeeper is necessarily a sexual man. He loves sex, needs sex, enjoys sex. He is a phallic being. He must have a deep, wholesome love of sex, and heterosexual sex in particular. Neurotic guys who have serious sexual hang-ups or guys who are repressed homosexuals are disqualified. One owns an odalisque for sexual fulfilment and for no other reason. Guys who are motivated by power rather than sex are disqualified.
Women-lovers
A Slavekeeper must love women. They must enjoy females and the company of females and have a deep respect for the feminine. Macho guys, women-haters and “men's men” are disqualified.
Maturity
A Slavekeeper must be mature and sensible and have insights into himself. He must have seen a bit of life and know how to behave responsibly and appropriately. Immature fools, loudmouths, jack-asses and dickheads are disqualified.
Generosity
A Slavekeeper must be generous of nature in all departments of life. He is a generous friend to his friends and is always ready to put others ahead of himself. Selfishness and mean-spiritedness disqualify a man from the Keepers role.
Patience
A Slavekeeper must be patient. He is not easily frustrated. He sets clear goals and works towards them in a steady manner. Impatience is a sure sign that a guy is not suitable for the Keepers role.
Chivalry
A Slavekeeper must be chivalrous and courteous. He is well-mannered, polite and behaves in a gallant and respectful manner towards women. Guys who are coarse, loud, abusive or rough are disqualified.
Refinement
A Slavekeeper must have a degree of refinement. He has refined tastes. Guys who are all beer, pool and football are unlikely to make good Slavekeepers under Code d' Odalisque. These things are fine in themselves but a Slavekeeper needs a broader and more nuanced range of interests and appreciates some of the finer things in life as well.
This list is not exhaustive, but it does provide a sketch of the traits that are essential. There are other styles of slave play (such as Gorean) for other types of men. Code d' Ode is designed more for the urbane, sophisticated gentleman than for the Conan-the-barbarian type. Read through the above list again and ask yourself honestly - “Is keeping an odalisque really for me?”
To be a successful Keeper of an odalisque a man needs certain qualities. One does not need to be a “Dom” in the technical sense and nor does one need a lot of experience in the Master/slave or dominant/submissive lifestyle, but there are certain traits that are essential. Not every man can be a Slavekeeper, anymore than every woman can be an odalisque. It requires aptitude and the right approach. Unfortunately, experience has shown that the necessary qualities are often in short supply in the modern man. It is often easier to find a woman suited to the odalisque role than it is to find a man suited to be a Slavemaster. Here are some of the key qualities that a man needs if he is to consider owning an odalisque:
Sanity
A Slavekeeper needs to be sane and stable. It is a sad fact that many guys who trawl the BDSM scene are neither. Guys who have a history of mental illness and related disorders such as delusions of grandeur are disqualified.
Peacefulness
A Slavekeeper must be able to hold his peace. Guys with short tempers or who are prone to bouts of anger or violence are disqualified. A Keeper must have a deep and lasting commitment to the principle of peace in personal relations. Guys with a history of domestic violence don't make the grade.
Sexuality
A Slavekeeper is necessarily a sexual man. He loves sex, needs sex, enjoys sex. He is a phallic being. He must have a deep, wholesome love of sex, and heterosexual sex in particular. Neurotic guys who have serious sexual hang-ups or guys who are repressed homosexuals are disqualified. One owns an odalisque for sexual fulfilment and for no other reason. Guys who are motivated by power rather than sex are disqualified.
Women-lovers
A Slavekeeper must love women. They must enjoy females and the company of females and have a deep respect for the feminine. Macho guys, women-haters and “men's men” are disqualified.
Maturity
A Slavekeeper must be mature and sensible and have insights into himself. He must have seen a bit of life and know how to behave responsibly and appropriately. Immature fools, loudmouths, jack-asses and dickheads are disqualified.
Generosity
A Slavekeeper must be generous of nature in all departments of life. He is a generous friend to his friends and is always ready to put others ahead of himself. Selfishness and mean-spiritedness disqualify a man from the Keepers role.
Patience
A Slavekeeper must be patient. He is not easily frustrated. He sets clear goals and works towards them in a steady manner. Impatience is a sure sign that a guy is not suitable for the Keepers role.
Chivalry
A Slavekeeper must be chivalrous and courteous. He is well-mannered, polite and behaves in a gallant and respectful manner towards women. Guys who are coarse, loud, abusive or rough are disqualified.
Refinement
A Slavekeeper must have a degree of refinement. He has refined tastes. Guys who are all beer, pool and football are unlikely to make good Slavekeepers under Code d' Odalisque. These things are fine in themselves but a Slavekeeper needs a broader and more nuanced range of interests and appreciates some of the finer things in life as well.
This list is not exhaustive, but it does provide a sketch of the traits that are essential. There are other styles of slave play (such as Gorean) for other types of men. Code d' Ode is designed more for the urbane, sophisticated gentleman than for the Conan-the-barbarian type. Read through the above list again and ask yourself honestly - “Is keeping an odalisque really for me?”
Saturday, May 8, 2010
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