Refinement - Conduct of Orgia

24.1. - Intention of refinement

The general intention of this Code is to bring refinement, fine taste and decorum to the modern environment of sexual experimentation and adventure. All players are bound to this same ideal in word and action at all times.


A substantial part of Code d’ Odalisque concerns manners and etiquette. The intention of the Code is to provide the rules and framework for a high culture of slavekeeping, where hardcore debauchery is balanced with an elegant aesthetic, where a blatantly sexual mode of servitude is civilized by a code of urbane politeness and chivalry. This style of slavekeeping is for the sophisticated gentleman.

It needs to be distinguished from the more common ‘grungey dungeon’ style of slave-play. An odalisque is not a piece of trash. She is the highest and most precious of slaves. She has been raised above the level of low slaves and memlooks to be devoted to erotic service. Accordingly, her world is one of civility as well as a world of rules that carefully define her place in the order of things. The Code sets out her standards of behavior, as well as setting limits for those who would enjoy her.

This includes a set of rules for orgia. It may occur that, on the command of her Master, an odalisque is to serve several men, or several men and women, in the form of a ‘gangbang’ or an orgy. By definition, the odalisque exists to bring new and rare sexual delights to her owner. One owns an odalisque in order to explore. This might include sharing her with guests. The Code has rules for the conduct of such occasions. The whole of section XXV is devoted to ‘Conduct during Orgia’. These are rules that make for civilized group play.

Anyone who has sampled the contemporary urban orgy will understand the need to set some standards. Group sexual encounters can often be grubby and uninspiring. The atmosphere can be ruined by loudmouths and uncouth and pedestrian players. The present author once attended a group-sex scene where the loveplay was punctuated with two obnoxious men bickering while a third heated slices of pizza in a microwave! Code d’ Ode endeavors to bring some style and good taste to the orgy. Without compromising its ecstatic nature, the orgy requires some formality.

Article 26.1 states:

All speech and discourse during play shall be of a civil tone and indicative of a culture of respect and refinement. Players shall refrain from loud vulgarisms and uncouth or abrasive speech, except where lewd sexual talk is appropriate and warranted.

An orgy, obviously, should be orgiastic, and this means spontaneous, unruly, intense, but there is no reason why an orgy needs to be tacky. People can conduct themselves with decorum as well as indulging in carnal excess. The famous orgy scene from Kubrick’s film Eyes Wide Shut is an example of the appropriate aesthetic and tone: formal, tasteful, decadent. In all aspects, Code d’ Odalisque proposes a high culture of slavery. This is not the slavery of barbarians, nor of rural landowners, nor an industrial slavery. The purpose of an odalisque is to provide sexual luxuries. It is the slavery enjoyed by urban sophisticates, men of fine taste and leisure.