Qualities of a Slavekeeper

To be a successful Keeper of an odalisque a man needs certain qualities. One does not need to be a “Dom” in the technical sense and nor does one need a lot of experience in the Master/slave or dominant/submissive lifestyle, but there are certain traits that are essential. Not every man can be a Slavekeeper, anymore than every woman can be an odalisque. It requires aptitude and the right approach. Unfortunately, experience has shown that the necessary qualities are often in short supply in the modern man. It is often easier to find a woman suited to the odalisque role than it is to find a man suited to be a Slavemaster. Here are some of the key qualities that a man needs if he is to consider owning an odalisque:

Sanity

A Slavekeeper needs to be sane and stable. It is a sad fact that many guys who trawl the BDSM scene are neither. Guys who have a history of mental illness and related disorders such as delusions of grandeur are disqualified.

Peacefulness

A Slavekeeper must be able to hold his peace. Guys with short tempers or who are prone to bouts of anger or violence are disqualified. A Keeper must have a deep and lasting commitment to the principle of peace in personal relations. Guys with a history of domestic violence don't make the grade.

Sexuality

A Slavekeeper is necessarily a sexual man. He loves sex, needs sex, enjoys sex. He is a phallic being. He must have a deep, wholesome love of sex, and heterosexual sex in particular. Neurotic guys who have serious sexual hang-ups or guys who are repressed homosexuals are disqualified. One owns an odalisque for sexual fulfilment and for no other reason. Guys who are motivated by power rather than sex are disqualified.

Women-lovers

A Slavekeeper must love women. They must enjoy females and the company of females and have a deep respect for the feminine. Macho guys, women-haters and “men's men” are disqualified. 

Maturity

A Slavekeeper must be mature and sensible and have insights into himself. He must have seen a bit of life and know how to behave responsibly and appropriately. Immature fools, loudmouths, jack-asses and dickheads are disqualified. 

Generosity

A Slavekeeper must be generous of nature in all departments of life. He is a generous friend to his friends and is always ready to put others ahead of himself. Selfishness and mean-spiritedness disqualify a man from the Keepers role. 

Patience

A Slavekeeper must be patient. He is not easily frustrated. He sets clear goals and works towards them in a steady manner. Impatience is a sure sign that a guy is not suitable for the Keepers role.

Chivalry

A Slavekeeper must be chivalrous and courteous. He is well-mannered, polite and behaves in a gallant and respectful manner towards women. Guys who are coarse, loud, abusive or rough are disqualified.

Refinement

A Slavekeeper must have a degree of refinement. He has refined tastes. Guys who are all beer, pool and football are unlikely to make good Slavekeepers under Code d' Odalisque. These things are fine in themselves but a Slavekeeper needs a broader and more nuanced range of interests and appreciates some of the finer things in life as well.


This list is not exhaustive, but it does provide a sketch of the traits that are essential. There are other styles of slave play (such as Gorean) for other types of men. Code d' Ode is designed more for the urbane, sophisticated gentleman than for the Conan-the-barbarian type. Read through the above list again and ask yourself honestly - “Is keeping an odalisque really for me?”