Fisting?

Question: Can you explain why fisting is forbidden under Code d' Odalisque? My boyfriend and I find it very exciting. We don't understand why it would be listed as one of the sexual practices not permitted for odalisques.

The first priority of Code d' Odalisque is the safety and well-being of the slave. Accordingly, the Code takes a cautious and quite conservative position on more extreme types of sexual practice. Violence of any kind is listed as forbidden, but so too are practices that could result in injury to the slave. The practice of fisting - and extreme insertions - is in this category. This is not to say that fisting is deemed evil or wrong, but it is to say that it is regarded as a practice that can lead to injury.

Some people do indeed find fisting exciting, just as some people indulge in inserting large objects - from giant dildos to beer bottles - into a woman's vagina or anus. Obviously, this can cause unusual degrees of pleasure, which is why people do it, but it can also be dangerous. There is the danger of tearing and other injuries to the vagina, the perineum, the vaginal walls and even more so to the anus and rectal cavity. Yes, many couples indulge in these practices in a perfectly safe manner and there are never any problems for them, but by its very nature inserting large objects - including a whole fist - into a woman has a distinct potential to cause injury.

And such injuries are much more common than people might suppose. Experienced nurses and doctors will usually be able to relate stories about just how common sex injuries are. Couples push the limits and miscalculate and suddenly someone is injured. There are stories - often presented as funny stories - about people turning up at casualty wards with all sorts of strange objects inside them; bottles, tools, kitchen utensils, small animals etc. While this is more embarrassing than dangerous in most cases, there are plenty of instances where such sexual misadventures cause real and lasting damage. We want to avoid situations where an odalisque has to be taken to a hospital to have objects removed or tears stitched.

The vagina is elastic, sure enough. It has to be for the purposes of childbirth, but let us recall that for all that natural elasticity painful tearing is very common in childbirth. Code d' Ode errs on the side of safety. There is therefore a rule in the Code preventing Slavekeepers from fisting and extreme insertions. Safety comes first.

It should be noted, however, that while this is the default position Code d' Ode is very flexible and can be easily adapted to the tastes of particular couples. If a couple regularly practice fisting (or similar) without any problems, then it is easy for them to amend the parameters of the Code - although this is at the call of the woman. These features of the Code are designed to protect the woman - so it is her call if such strictures are to be relaxed. We do not deny that some women find fisting exciting and exhilerating. In that case, she should explicitly state her willingness to be used for such purposes in her Contract of Submission or in a subsequent Plea for Mercy. For example, a slave may (of her own volition, and without coercion) issue a Plea for Mercy along the lines of the following in:

Slavekeeper! Your slave wishes to surrender her protection from the practice of fisting under Code d' Odalisque. Your slave enjoys being fisted and issues you with a plea to use her in this way with her full consent. 

Since it is forbidden under the Code, it requires a Plea for Mercy to register explicit consent from the slave.

Similarly, many couples enjoy the practice of spanking. It is also forbidden under Code d' Odalisque because, as always, the Code errs on the side of safety and is non-violent by default. But if a slave enjoys being spanked she can give her Master permission to do it. The Code can be adapted to personal tastes. Take care.