Tuesday, July 31, 2012

A Short Guide to Contract (Repost)


Code d' Odalisque offers a framework of quasi-legal contract in which contemporary couples may play Master/slave lifetstyle and games. Here is a summary of some simple principles of contract:

ALL CONTRACTS MUST BE SIGNED BY THREE PARTIES

1. When a cockslave enters slavery she signs a general CONTRACT OF SUBMISSION. This sets the broad parameters of her slavery.

2. A cockslave may make a PLEA FOR MERCY at any time after making her CONTRACT OF SUBMISSION. A Plea for Mercy is a contract that makes more exact and specific limits than the Contract of Submission.

3. A CONTRACT OF SUBMISSION cannot be modified once it is signed.

4. A PLEA FOR MERCY always rules over a CONTRACT OF SUBMISSION. A recent PLEA FOR MERCY rules over all prior ones.

5. Another recognized licit contract in Code d' Ode is the RELEASE FOR TRAINING by which a Slavekeeper releases his slave to a Slavetrainer for particular and specified training.

The important distinction is between a CONTRACT OF SUBMISSION and a PLEA FOR MERCY.

CONTRACT OF SUBMISSION = a general statement of sexual submission made by the slave at the beginning of her slavery. It is a fixed contract that has forced throughout the whole duration of her erotic slavery, regardless of to which Master she may belong. It sets out what are sometimes called her "hard limits".

PLEA FOR MERCY = a more specific contract that sets the slaves limits in particular scenes or for particular occasions. A slave will usually make a PLEA FOR MERCY to her new Slavekeeper when she is first purchased.

A slave makes a CONTRACT OF SUBMISSION to a Slavetrader.
A slave makes a PLEA FOR MERCY to her Slavemaster (Slavekeeper) or others placed in charge of her.

A further recognized type of contract is the PROMISE OF PEARLS made by a Slavemaster to his slave. In this document a Slavemaster will make a written promise to present his slave with black pearls if she completes the list of Ordeals itemized in the written contract. A PROMISE OF PEARLS is a Table of Ordeals where the Master sets out what he wants the slave to do in order to win her pearls. The slave must consent to the articles of the written PROMISE OF PEARLS, i.e. her program of Ordeals.

Formal Requirements

For a contract to be licit in Code d' Ode it must be signed by three parties. This is the minimum requirement. A contract signed by only the Slavekeeper and the slave has no force.

A further formal requirement is that all contracts must conclude with the words, clearly visible in upper case: CONSENT. SAFETY. LEGALITY. The signatories to the contract must sign their names directly under these words.

Code d' Ode seeks to make these firm standards of contractual practice in consensual erotic slavery. Current practice is ad hoc.

Monday, July 30, 2012

Emotional trauma?


… I was reading this study that subs are often devastated, completely broken and crushed, if their relationship with a Master goes bad. It’s a big problem…. What does… Code d’ Ode do about this sort of emotional devastation that can happen? 

This is an important issue. Like physical abuse, emotional trauma is a problem that people in the "scene" rarely acknowledge. Female submissives are, by nature, emotionally timid. Odalisque slavery is intense. For women who are soft and fragile it can be dangerous territory. If it goes bad, she can be hurt.

Code d’ Ode is non-violent and it provides a safe non-sado-masochistic environment for slave play, but emotional trauma can be more painful and debilitating than physical damage. Emotional scars can last just as long as physical ones. And an odalisque – as a submissive female – is inherently vulnerable. We have heard of, and seen, cases where a femsub has been left distraught and damaged by the sudden or embittered end of a Dom/sub relationship. Submission implies trust. A sub can be shaken to the core when they feel their trust has been betrayed. Everyone who is involved in Code d’ Odalisque in any capacity – Slavekeepers, Trainers, others – should be very aware of this. Odalisques, though slaves, are very special and precious creatures. The first priority of players must always be the safety, welfare and well-being of odalisques. Be gentle with odalisques. To break an odalisque’s heart or to crush her spirit is as destructive as beating her up. 

Unfortunately, people can be fickle and life can be cruel. We encountered a case recently where a gentleman had taken an odalisque. She had moved in and was settled into a Master/slave lifestyle. But suddenly, without warning, he announced that he had “changed his mind” and “wanted to get serious with life” and was looking for a wife and family, not an odalisque after all. Moreover, he was already courting a wife-to-be. The odalisque had to move out and her life was thrown into turmoil. She was left very upset, very hurt.

Slavekeepers, being mere men, can be unreliable. This sort of thing can happen too readily, but such are the exigencies of life. Not all relationships work. Many don’t. When they don’t, people get hurt.

The Code itself includes several features that help to provide some protection from such cruelties:

For a start, in Code d’ Ode ‘Man is her master but cock is her god.’ The slave is not encouraged to become excessively focused upon the personality of the Slavekeeper. In many Master/slave relationships the dom male presents himself as a God and the sub fem is completely absorbed in "His" personality. This is not the case in Code d’ Ode. Instead, the slave is cock focused. She obeys her Master but it is cock – not him – that she loves. An odalisque is a servant. She is not expected to fall in love with the man she serves. This means that there is more distance between Master and slave in odalisque slavery. Her very life doesn’t hang on his favor. He is not a god to her. Accordingly, she will be less shattered if he turns out to be a creep.

Second, an odalisque may have an Overmistress who is independent of her Keeper. The Overmistress is an advisor, usually an older woman. She provides, in effect, an extra layer of security for an odalisque. If things go bad with her Keeper an odalisque can turn her Overmistress. The Overmistress also helps the slave to keep perspective and not to fall into delusions. She is a voice of sanity, stability and reason. Her job is to help the odalisque serve her Master and thrive in doing so. She looks out for the slave’s well-being. An Overmistress – an older woman, a confidente – is at least some protection from the force of emotionally shattering eventualities.

And, third, the whole structure of the Code, with its protocols and formalities, acts as a matrix for serious, suitable players. Casual arrangements tend to fall apart and disappoint. Casual arrangements tend to be cheap and nasty. If a Master and an odalisque are serious they will adopt the Code – the rules, contracts, ensure a degree of formality that drives away casual and unreliable people. Lots of men, we know, react to Code d’ Odalisque by saying, “I can’t be bothered with all that. I just want to get my dick sucked by a cockslave!” That’s not going to be a reliable man. If a woman seeks a reliable man who is serious about keeping her as an odalisque then she should look for men who will play within the framework and formalities of the Code. The Code itself filters out many idiots and fools. Instead – so we hope – it encourages and attracts gentlemen and men of honor. This is preventative. We avoid scenes of upheaval and emotional trauma by cultivating an atmosphere of civility and etiquette among civilized, reliable people.

We fully appreciate the fact that the BDSM community generally has more than its share of weirdos and highly-strung individuals. It is always going to be hard for an odalisque to find a suitable Keeper. Suitable Keepers are in short supply. A woman should therefore protect herself from emotional hurt. She should know her own limitations and weaknesses. Relationships will fail. Many Master/slave arrangements fall short of expectations. Beautiful dreams come crashing down. It is always best to stay realistic. Crushing disappointments are usually the result of over-blown expectations. Code d’ Ode is a fantasy and is built upon and around sexual fantasy, but everyone should be realistic about the fickle and complex nature of people and relationships.

Sunday, July 29, 2012

A trophy wife?

Question: Isn’t odalisque just another name for trophy wife? 

Answer: No. An odalisque and a trophy wife are very different things. For a start, a trophy wife – as the name implies – is for display. She is a trophy to be put on display as an ornament to her husband. Typically, she is young and attractive and he is considerably older (and less attractive). He shows her off; having a young pretty thing on his arm makes him feel successful and youthful. An odalisque, on the other hand, is not a trophy to be displayed. She is a fantasy to be hidden. She is placed in “occlusion” – hidden from the world, a captive. She is not a prop for a man’s ego. Her Master keeps her a secret. He doesn’t parade her around in public as are trophy wives.

There is one similarity, though. Usually, a trophy wife is taken by a wealthy man. The young attractive woman agrees to be his trophy wife and in return she enjoys his opulent lifestyle. She doesn’t have to work. She lives in luxury. All she has to do is be his trophy. Let him show her around among his friends. There might be sex involved, but often not. All he wants is a good-looking wife on his arm at social functions and business dinners. An odalisque too is kept in luxury and is spared from toil. For this she must serve her Master as his obedient cockslave. In both cases, it is a means for a woman to be living in luxury and to be kept by a man.

But unlike the trophy wife, the odalisque is for sex, not for show. And she is a slave, not a wife. She is kept in occlusion and used as a object, a toy, in her Master’s fantasies. This goes well beyond what is required of a trophy wife. The two roles are very different. A wife is not a slave. A trophy wife is a freewoman. Usually, a trophy wife will enjoy a high degree of freedom, including the freedom to spend her husband’s money. Sometimes she may be free to have affairs with other men, just so long as she continues to look the part for her husband. An odalisque is in bonded service. She is a captive sex slave. She enjoys her Master’s generosity, but she serves him as a slave, obedient and unflinching.

There are women who calculate that marrying an old rich guy is a worthwhile deal. That is the calculation of the trophy wife. There are fewer women with aptitude for the odalisque’s life. A desire for comfort and luxury is not enough. The woman who would be bonded to a Slavekeeper must be prepared for dedicated sexual service. The trophy wife is kept for looks. The odalisque is kept for sex. A woman must have a calling to sexual service – she must love being used by and serving men sexually – in order to take up the odalisque’s life. She is not a freewoman. She is a captive slave. A high class slave, but a slave nonetheless. It is a far deeper commitment.

The trophy wife role is not essentially sexual. The odalisque role is. By definition, an odalisque is a sexual submissive. There may be nothing submissive about a trophy wife. They are often calculating and ambitious. The trophy wife is usually a whore by type, not a slave. The whore is only interested in sex insofar as it is a means to money and other things. The trophy wife is motivated by the money and the high living. If the old rich guy goes bankrupt you can be sure the trophy wife will be long gone. The odalisque enjoys a good life, but it is not her primary motivation. The need to serve, the sex, is crucial. First and foremost she wants to be taken and used, to serve under a Master.

If it is just a matter of calculating how best to be kept in a wealthy lifestyle, the trophy wife role is best. If that is all that motivates a woman, she should become a trophy wife. An odalisque has a different and higher calling. Sex is the thing she does best. She is a sexual creature. She wants to be spared from toil to devote herself to sexual service. She doesn’t want to be a whore. She wants to be kept and put to her proper purpose.

Odalisque and trophy wife might be comparable from one viewpoint, but their motivation and temperament are very different. They are as different as slave and whore. And as different as slave and freewoman. The urge to find shelter in the generosity of a well-to-do male might be there as a factor in both cases, but that is the only similarity.

Odalisque Fiction Wanted


Code d' Odalisque recently featured in the latest erotic novel by Annabel Joseph. The novel is loosely based on the Code. Recommended reading.

We are always looking for fiction - especially short stories - that illustrates the odalisque lifestyle. The main requirement is that the play in the story conforms to the parameters of Code d' Odalisque. It is fem-sub and non-S & M, for example.

If Code d' Odalisque has moved you to write some erotic fiction we would love to read it. Please send it to:

bedroomslaves@yahoo.com

Your copyright respected, of course. We are hoping to collect together an anthology of stories for publication. We are looking for contributors. If you want to be involved, we'd love to hear from you.

Short Story - Miss Sabine's Second Thursday


The water was turquoise and warm-to-tepid, almost non-existent, as Mme. Sabine – slender and naked – stepped and then slid quickly into the small private pool that was nestled among ferns in the covered bath-house at the home of Mr John Stronnel. Something had changed in her. It was evident straight away. Madam Therese, a woman in her mid to late forties, already lazing with the water up to her bare, tanned shoulders, both arms stretched on the pool's edge, could see it in her face, her eyes. She looked at the younger woman's beautiful nakedness, her breasts, her thighs, her almost perfect frame. What had been happening? What was it that had changed?

It was the second Thursday. Every second Thursday they would meet at this location and spend a good hour – sometimes three – soaking dreamily, sipping jasmine tea, now and then making conversation. Often there was little to say, which was fine with them both, but on other second Thursdays the younger woman had questions and dilemmas ready for the older and they spent the morning in light, comfortable and wide-ranging discussion. And sometimes – like this particular morning – the older woman made observations and wanted to hear of events and experiences, dreams, surprises, disappointments, developments. The great fortune of it was that they – in all truth – had genuine affection for each other and both felt at ease discussing whatever matters might arise. This included matters of the most explicit intimacy – an intimacy without taboos - since, in fact, that was the business that had brought them together in the first place.

The younger woman was at that time an odalisque to a wealthy gentleman, Mr Stephen Tarrant, architect. The older woman had once served in the sexual servant's role to Stronnel; now her duty was mentoring and instruction. Officially, she was Overmistress to Mme. Sabine: friend, teacher, guardian, protector, companion, and on occasion, mom. She knew the odalisque well enough to be able to detect changes in her demeanour and to know when something had gone wrong – or when something had gone right! She could sense when the younger woman was troubled, or when, on the contrary, she was exhilarated in her youthful confusions. On this day she seemed both. It was hard to tell. The Overmistress smiled with compassion and then, wisely, waited for Miss Sabine to relax and start the conversation. For her part, the younger woman flopped her body into the clear water and ran her palms over her breasts and closed her eyes, breathing deeply. At last. Second Thursday. One of her favourite days.

“Do you think,” she asked at length, “that women are more sexual than men?”

It was a big question. The answer – short of an abstract philosophical discourse that might cover all the possibilities – was, of course, that it depends on the man and the woman.

“Why do you ask?” said Madame Therese, waiting for Sabine to open her eyes and reveal more of her feelings.

“Just wondering” said Sabine.

This was followed by a long silence punctuated by the gentle sounds of the water lapping on the tiled edges. The morning sun beamed down through a skylight into the greenery and seemed to make the garden steamy, tropical.

“Do you think,” asked the odalisque eventually, “that lust can drive you crazy?”

These were merely warm-up questions. Despite their trust and the deep connection they had established, and the fact that nothing was taboo between them, the younger woman was = as usual – slow to open her heart, or, rather, she was simply shy and didn't quite know where to begin.

“It can do, sure,” said the Overmistress. “Why do you ask?”

She searched Sabine's face for clues.

“No particular reason” said the slave, “But I was wondering what you thought, and I...”

But she added nothing more.

More soaking. More silence. The sound of bird-song outside. The gorgeous warmth of the April sun. Miss Sabine let her body float limply and commented on what a lovely day it was. It was a few minutes more before she finally started getting to the point, but even then she still seemed uncomfortable.

“My Master,” she said, “organised a group last week...” Then Sabine held he nostrils closed and slid down into the water. When she surfaced, her hair wet, she continued. “And it was, well, amazing...”

“Ah-huh,” said the Overmistress. “A group...?”

“You know,” said the odalisque. And she looked at Therese as if to say, 'Do I really need to spell it out?'

She didn't. Madam Therese understood perfectly, but she looked back as if to say, 'Are you going to tell me about it or are you going to make me drag the details out of you by force?'

The odalisque avoided her gaze by pretending to notice how her toes were floating on the surface and taking an interest in the state of her toenails.

“A big group,” she said finally. “And it was really... well, I think I really shocked myself this time Therese...”

“How so?”

The odalisque rolled over in the water, her skin pale and smooth and glistening where the sunlight touched upon her shoulders. Her breasts were exceptional. Round. Pert. Perfect proportions. Her neck was splendid too. A long and elegant neck, now framed by the long strands of her wet hair.

Why was she reluctant to open up about this? Why the hesitancy? How had she shocked herself? And what did she mean by “shocked”?

A slightly awkward silence. She spun around in the water again, dunked under, came back up, looked coy.

“A big group?” asked the Overmistress. Another invitation to speak.

“Big-ish,” said the odalisque. “At Mr Ahmed's. Mme. Kathy. Dr Hampton. Those people.”

“I see,” said the Overmistress. “And you shocked yourself?” She smiled.

The odalisque raised her eyebrows. “Wow!” she said, and slid back under the water again.

The event to which she kept alluding was a “party” at the home of Mr Ahmed who had only recently returned from a business trip to Istanbul. And by the word “group” or “party” she meant, in fact, an orgy. Her Master hadn't ventured into Mr Ahmed's circle in a long while, and when he did he would often visit on his own. But on this occasion – a special event - he took Miss Sabine along. He thought it time she saw the full extent of Mr Ahmed's “operation”, the euphemism he used for what was, in fact, Mr Ahmed's hareem of sex slaves and the circle of men and women around him who were devoted to the nurture and use of odalisques. The “party” was at Mr Ahmed's luxurious mansion, a two storey white marble home built in the 1920s in the ornate Art Deco style. To the rear of the upper floor was the 'saray' – the playroom – once a ballroom where governors and Secretaries of State had wined and dined in former times; now it was equipped with devans and couches, a large circular bed, rugs and cushions, and an array of fixtures and devices devoted to the pursuit of sexual pleasures. On the night in question there were nearly twenty people present and they could have easily occupied only a single corner of the room. The lovely Mme. Kathy stood on the old bandstand – naked and barefooted as befitting a slave – and gave a violin recital of Brahms while another slave from Mr Ahmed's hareem, Miss Nell, served drinks. The handsome Dr Hampton gave a speech welcoming Mr Ahmed's return. It was an elegant affair. At first.

The Overmistress wondered why she hadn't heard of this party and, even more, why she hadn't been invited, but in fact it had been some time since she was active in the scene.

“Who else was there?” she asked when Sabine resurfaced.

The odalisque listed those could remember but many of those present she didn't know by name. There were several freewomen, several slaves, and a majority of men all of whom arrived in semi-formal attire – suit and tie – and observed the level of decorum upon which the very urbane Mr Ahmed insisted. After the recital and the formalities, though, the lights were dropped low and the night fell into orgiastic abandon – with absolutely no decorum at all! When Madam Therese asked for details of who did what and to whom her companion took another breath, held her nose and dunked down into the water again and upon surfacing said, “My goodness, Therese! It was a wild night. Crazy.”

Therese observed that Mr Ahmed wasn't known for doing things by halves. Indeed, he was possibly the most serious Slavekeeper in the country. It came as no surprise to her that a “party” at Mr Ahmed's – which is to say one of Mr Ahmed's infamous orgies – had gone off with a bang.

“You came away unscathed?” she asked.

Sabine nodded, but her eyes revealed that she had seen things – done things – which she had found... well, extraordinary.

“You know Therese, I think I nearly lost the plot...”

The Overmistress smiled. All was OK. No harm done. The discomfort in Sabine, she realised, was nothing more than old-fashioned shame. It was entirely becoming, in fact, and she observed just how beautiful, and how deeply sexual, the young woman was.

“So tell me...”

For the rest of the morning, as the sun climbed higher in the sky, and as the fernery filled with rich green light, Sabine detailed the events to which she had been privy. Apart from the steam and the beads of water on her skin she would have blushed and been embarrassed. Mdm. Therese was patient, kind, and also amused. “You outdid yourself, then?” she laughed. “Ha!” And indeed it was true. Perhaps Sabine had sipped a little too much wine, or perhaps the night had caught her at a flashpoint in her hormone cycles, or perhaps (as she considered) she was getting more depraved, but her participation in the orgy was wholehearted, full on. At her Master's direction she gave herself to all the guests without discrimination, male and female, fucking, sucking, panting, moaning, on the bed, on the floor, on the divan. She stayed near her Master at first. She had never encountered a group scene so big. But then a certain gentleman – she didn't know his name – took her by the arm, laid her across some pillows and proceeded to pound her with cock. Beautiful cock. Long, thick, juicy cock. It was that that did it to her. He was an expert, and his phallus was divine. He propped himself on his knees and toes, thrust his lips to hers, and started pumping. Thrust. Thrust. Thrust. Sabine threw her legs wide apart and gave herself to the moment. It drove her mad. Along with the sounds and smells and shadows of twenty or more others lurching and licking all around her. It was wildly exciting.

“I couldn't stop,” she confessed. “I lost control. When he rolled off me I just wanted more. I looked around for another man, another cock. God, Therese. I lost control!”

“Like never before?”

“Yes. Like never before.”

“Why worry?”

“I don't know. I... I lost control. Totally. I was... trembling. Really, Therese. I was an animal. I was crawling around on my hands and knees looking for cock to suck. My god!”

The Overmistress was sanguine. “Well,” she said, “Mr Ahmed knows how to throw a party!”

To illustrate, Sabine related how, at one point in the evening, she was laying in a tangle of naked bodies, her face only inches from the pussy of some woman – identity unknown – while a long, circumcized phallus – identity unknown – slid in and out in joyous rhythms of lust. She didn't care who these obscene organs belong to. She was fascinated to watch them close-up. Pussy juice dripping off the cock. Pink vulva. The sultry scent of sex. The man's testicals hanging low, swinging. Close-up. In detail. Mindless animal organs. Thrusting. Quivering. She could hear grunts at every thrust. A barrage upon her senses. Sounds of squishing. Amazing contours of flesh. Vigour and energy. Spice. Flashes of red swelling. The cunt opening up and gobbling on the cock. And then – led by sweaty, rushing desperation, shafts of hot pink – suddenly, with a cry, the cock withdrew and Sabine watched amazed as streams of white semen burst from its head and splattered all over the sweltering pussy. An extraordinary view. The sudden smell of ammonia-laced man-juice. Thick. Dribbling. No longer content to watch, Sabine repositioned her arm and with a truly bestial lust – this is what she meant by lost control – she plunged her face into the soaked crotch and started lapping up the mess, blissful to have the sticky goo and the sheer heat of fucked pussy on her face.

“I couldn't help myself, Therese,” she said, almost apologetic. “Really. I couldn't help myself.”

The older woman splashed some water onto her shoulders and smiled. “Well, I'm shocked!” she teased. “How digusting of you Sabine! I hope you are thoroughly ashamed of yourself.”

“But that's the thing,” said the slave. “I am! I've never lost control like that before. Never. And there were other things, too. Wow!”

Finally, the older woman realised it was time to avail the younger of the lesson for the day.

“What do you expect, Sabine? I don't see why you are perturbed? This is the odalisque's life. How far will you go? How crazy will it get? So, you've discovered something about yourself. You never thought your lusts extended that far, is that it? I could have warned you. Mr Ahmed's parties have a way of bringing out the beast within a girl... It won't be the last time. If you're lucky.”

Was it 'normal'? Well, what's normal anyway? And what is normal for an odalisque? The only thing to overcome, she explained, is the guilt and the shame. “Don't let guilt get you down,” was her primary word of advice.

“Is that all it is?” asked Miss Sabine. “Guilt?”

It was time to get out of the pool and dry off.

“That's it,” said Therese. “Its deadly. Although in your case, I think its sort of cute...” They smiled at each other. Rapport. “My goodness,” Therese continued, now drying the slave's back with a towel, “once I sucked off a whole football team.”

“Really?”

“No, not really. But I would have if John had asked me to. And, god knows, there were times I swear I wanted to! This life will stir your passions, girl. Expect it. And don't be surprised by your own depravity. Isn't that what led you into this life anyway? And don't be surprised if Mr Ahmed knows how to give everyone a good time. He's an expert at the orgy. OK?

“OK.”

Guilt. Miss Sabine didn't usually think of herself as suffering from guilt. 'Yes,' she thought, 'guilt. I should do something about that.'

“Its just that I shocked myself, I guess,” she said again.

“Be prepared to shock yourself some more before your days are out,” said the Overmistress. “Its an inner exploration, the odalisque's life. You'd be surprised what kind of lusts are lurking within. As you've just found.”

Therese gave her an endearing kiss on the head and then the two of them walked naked through the fernery inside to make some lunch.

Saturday, July 28, 2012

Holding a masque


I am interested in the idea of a ‘Masque’ party, like in Eyes Wide Shut. How do I go about organizing a ‘Masque’ that conforms to Code d’ Odalisqu
e?

Answer: The word ‘Masque’ refers to a typical Code d’ Odalisque party, a celebration of slave culture under the Code. A masque is a party for Slavekeepers and their slaves; typically those who attend wear masks. As you say, something similar is depicted in the famous scene in the film ‘Eyes Wide Shut’. It is a formal party with attendees wearing masks, but it is also, in effect, an orgy where all aspects of Code d’ Ode and odalisque slavery are celebrated.

To hold a masque you need an appropriate number of Slavekeepers and slaves. A party is not a party without people. That is the most important ingredient. If you have enough suitable people to attend, the rest of the organization is easy. You need a time and a venue. You organize food, entertainment, security, just as you would for any party. You then send out the invitations. A masque – since it is essentially a sex party - should be invitation only. It is for people who are practicing Code d’ Ode and who are actively involved in the lifestyle. People who might be shocked or scandalized by sex slave play, who are unfamiliar with the lifestyle, are best not invited. As the Code says, “It is not a public event.”

Section 29 of the Code gives the outlines of a masque under the articles of Code d’ Odalisque. These guidelines should not be regarded as restrictive. Like every aspect of Code d’ Ode it is intended to be an arena for creativity. The Host of the Masque should make it a creative and imaginative event. It should be conducted in good taste, be well-conceived – imaginative erotica - and well organized. A masque should be regarded as an opportunity to explore the themes and aesthetics of odalisque slave play. At very least, there should be a display of naked odalisques for the enjoyment of guests. Better still, a Masque can feature contests of Code etiquette. For example:

*Several judges are appointed.

*Female contestants are tested in demonstrating the canonical slave positions described in Code d’ Odalisque.

*The winner is declared Queen of the Masque.

After the choice of attendees, the most important factor is the venue. A private home is quite suitable but using a special venue can make the event more memorable and imbue it with a sense of class and elegance. We have once attended a masque held in a large private suite on an upper floor of a hotel overlooking London. The venue was hired for the weekend. Guests arrived unmasked and changed into masks and costume upon arrival. Entertainment was an erotic belly dance by an odalisque with a panoramic view of the city’s nightscape as the backdrop. The masque included use of a large spa. Absinthe was served.

A masque should be a special event. They are held rarely rather than often. They should not be casual weekly get-togethers. They should be thoughtfully organized. Good food. Fine wine. Polite conduct. Appropriate entertainment. Games. Sensual surrounds. It is worthwhile spending money on a good venue. Other possible venues:

*Old stately homes and historic mansions especially those with a Victorian or Edwardian ambience.

*Mountain chalets

*Coastal homes with sea views

Of course, given the nature of the event, every discretion is necessary when hiring a venue. A secluded or very private place away from prying eyes is best. Resorts that cater to the swingers sub-culture are ready-made as suitable places for an odalisque masque.

Careful, intelligent planning, imagination, good taste, a strong guest list and a decent venue are the keys to a successful masque.


Friday, July 27, 2012

Third person speech

Question: An issue that I have struggled with from time to time is the issue of the third person speech. It has a very forced feel to it, so much so that I tend to do everything I can to avoid it. Are there ways you have advised your slaves to practice this, or is it something learned simply by using it in conversation?

Answer:

Article 26.5 of the code states that continuity and fluid speech is more important than strict formality. If certain ways of speaking seem forced and are uncomfortable to the extent that you avoid them, you should relax the rules and speak naturally. The Code says:

26.5. - Continuity more important than formality
All players should employ proper titles in all appropriate scenes in a natural, plain and unaffected way. Continuity and ease are more valuable than a strict formality.

Slaves are to avoid the first person in speech. Here are the relevant articles:

26.13. - Use of first person pronouns by slaves

In all speech an odalisque should endeavor to use first person pronouns as little as possible, except where to use alternative constructions would be forced, comical, inappropriate or unnatural.

Examples of correct form:

To "I understand Keeper" prefer "It is understood Keeper."

To "Keeper, my feet are cold" prefer "Keeper, your slave's feet are cold."

To "I am all cunt for you, Keeper" prefer "A slave is all cunt for her Keeper."

To "I will do it, Keeper" prefer "It will be done, Keeper."

To "I submit to you, Keeper" prefer "Your slave submits to you, Keeper."

26.6. - Indirect forms of address preferred

All players shall prefer indirect forms of address including indirect forms of self-reference, avoiding the first person where appropriate, underlining wherever possible the function and title rather than the person of the player.

Examples of correct form:

Slavekeeper: Your Slavekeeper wants to see you. (Rather than "I want to see you.")

Slave: Your slave will obey. (Rather than "I will obey") 



But if this is difficult and it leads to stultified or artificial, forced discourse, there it is better to be natural. The same applies to the use of French words and phrases. If it sounds forced and artificial – or ugly or silly – then it is best to leave it aside and speak naturally. Ease before formality. Ease AND formality is best, but if that is not immediately possible then ease before formality.

From a training point of view, changing a slave’s speech to conform to the etiquette of Code d’ Odalisque usually should be done gently over time. The slave is slowly habituated to the required formalities. One of these is avoiding the first person, which means systematically deflecting her thoughts away from herself. It is part of the slave’s etiquette because it teaches her to not think of “I”, to not be an egocentric being, to defer in her thoughts to her Master. Avoiding the first person in speech creates a desirable habit of mind in a slave. But it can be adopted as a habit over time. If it feels forced, be natural and use “I” instead. Introduce third person speech slowly.