Disturbed women?

It was put to us recently that owning an odalisque is likely to be self-defeating - only a woman with mental disturbances and severe personal issues would want to live as an odalisque anyway, so she would be more trouble than it was worth. The gentleman explained that, in his experience, women in the consensual slavery scene are "all neurotic" as he put it and that acting as Keeper over such women is "not much fun". In some cases, he said, he had met women who were "quite disturbed" and were, or should have been, under psychiatric care.

Our response to this is to say that he is generalising and exaggerating. There are, no doubt, women such as he describes in this and in every other sexual subculture. Just as there are women - and men - such as he describes in the general population. But it is exaggerating to say that they are so prevalent as to make the dream of owning an odalisque futile. Our experience is otherwise: there are plenty of sane, self-aware women who are well-suited to the odalisque role and who would be a joy to own and use. Finding such a woman is not easy, and you may encounter loonies and neurotics along the way, but there are such women and they are very worthwhile.

It is a stereotype to think that women who would feel fulfilled by the odalisque's life must be crazy. It is the same stereotyping that proposes that all women who work as prostitutes must be damaged and were abused as children. Again, there are no doubt such cases, but we should not generalise and exaggerate. The fact is that many women who work as prostitutes are happy, well-adjusted women from ordinary middle-class backgrounds. Moreover, rather than being "victims" they enjoy their work. Similarly, there are women who - being sexually submissive by nature and inclination - enjoy the role of odalisque (cockslave). They are not "damaged goods". They do not come from terrible childhoods. They are not broken or crazy.

Likewise, it is a stereotype to suppose that sex-loving women are "insecure" or "looking for acceptance" or are "sex addicts" in need of treatment. Rather, it is a fact of nature that sexual appetites differ among people: some people have little libido and some people have more. Some women are cock-mad. Some men are cunt-mad. It's a fact of life, and we should not impose some abstract, puritanical standard of "normal" upon everyone. It takes all kinds. There are women for whom life as a sexual servant - where her task is to be used for male sexual pleasure - is very appealing.

Nevertheless, sanity is a proper issue to consider when a gentleman is shopping for an odalisque. It is quite proper to ask, is she stable and sane? A Slavekeeper does not want to take on a woman who is psychologically fragile and troubled. Apart from other considerations, it is a health and safety issue anyway. The odalisque's role can be demanding and intense. It is only suited to the psychologically robust. It would be ethically wrong to expose a woman who you knew to be psychologically fragile to intense service as a cockslave. An assessment of this must be made in every case. It is part of: safety first. The woman's safety comes before all other concerns. This includes her psychological well-being.