The Non-Sadomasochistic alternative

The original impetus for Code d' Odalisque came from women who, while sexually submissive, did not want to be subject to sadomasochism. This is the main characteristic of Code d' Ode: it offers slave play without SM. Recent contacts reiterate that this is still the main motivation behind people who are interested in this style of slave play; they are looking for fem sub play without SM. While true odalisques are rare, and it is hard to find women who are suited to the odalisque lifestyle, it is surprising just how common it is to find women who are in the submissive-but-no-SM category. It is a very common sexual orientation. Remarkably, it is not well catered for.

This fact was illustrated to us recently when, in the company of several young (and not so young) women, we were looking for female submissive erotica on-line. It is a simple experiment. Open google and search images for search strings such as "female submissive sex." You will find that such searches yield a high proportion of images such as this:

Search results for "female submissive sex" yield very few images of female submissives having sex and quite a lot of images of women having their nipples tortured or their backs flogged raw with a cat-of-nine-tails. It raises the question: since when is this sex? Obviously there are people who find such images stimulating and presumably they get aroused by them - which is fine. But the women who were perusing this material with us found it quite the opposite. I paraphrase, but one of them put it like this:

That is exactly the problem! I'm a submissive, but I don't want to be treated like this. When I say I'm a submissive, I mean a sexual submissive. I like to be used for pleasure. But as soon as I say I'm a female sub, guys and so-called "doms" think I'm saying that I want to be tortured and beaten and spat on. That's not my idea of submissive!

The other ladies all agreed. They all described themselves as "submissive" but they all found these images a turn off. Why, it must be asked, does a search string like "female submissive sex" turn up hundreds of images of pain maids? Why is there so little content concerning submissive females who are not into pain? Why should the word "submissive" be synonymous with sadomasochism? 

Code d' Odalisque offers female submissives a clear alternative. It is a different mode of slave play that draws upon different traditions of slavery. It is essentially hedonistic, devoted to sexual pleasure, rather than to "power exchange". It is essentially non-sadomasochistic; an odalisque is regarded as a creature of beauty and is protected from abuse and violence. Instead, an odalisque is a female sexual servant - not a pain slave. It is a defining feature of odalisque slavery. It is about pleasure, not pain.