Monday, June 7, 2010
Aesthetics
Code d' Odalisque is based on different historical models to other styles of consensual slave play, and indeed is based on a different erotic culture than that which is now predominant in the BDSM world. The dominant models are based in the French Revolution and in the inspiration of Marquis de Sade. De Sade has given Western civilization an enduring erotic and aesthetic culture, but it is one characterized by sado-masochism. The dungeon, whips, chains, leather, black clothing - these familiar features of alternative sexuality are all part of the erotic culture created by de Sade. By extension it is a grungy, industrial aesthetic. Typically, for example, a woman will be bound and whipped in an old factory. That is de Sade's idea of sexy.
Code d' Odalisque is a departure from this whole tradition. Not only does it offer an alternative style of play to those that are current in BDSM, but it also offers a different aesthetic. It is a refined and sensual aesthetic - not the dark, grungy aesthetic of de Sade. It draws upon the sensuality (and rich erotic heritage) of the Turks, Arabs, Persians, Berbers etc - all very sensual (and sexual) people. This oriental aesthetic is combined with a modern hardcore sensibility.
In the current aesthetic order sensuality tends to be equated with softcore. Hardcore tends to mean rough, ugly, harsh, violent. But in Code d' Ode, hardcore sexual play and sexual exploration is placed within a context of refinement and sensuality. An odalisque is a thing of beauty. Code d' Odalisque is a celebration of that beauty. But at the same time the odalisque is an object to be enjoyed and explored. Code d' Ode is about hardcore sexual exploration. The sensuality of the aesthetic does not mean "softcore".
There is no sado-masochism in Code d' Odalisque. And by extension there is no cult of ugliness. There is beauty, fantasy, mystery and there is excess, obsession, oblivion - the aesthetic context is sensual and sumptuous, drawing upon the rich traditions of the old orient. Code d' Odalisque revives odalisque slavery from the Ottoman empire. Accordingly, it draws upon the sensuality of that world, especially as it was *imagined* by Europeans in the Victorian and Edwardian eras.
Code d' Odalisque is a departure from this whole tradition. Not only does it offer an alternative style of play to those that are current in BDSM, but it also offers a different aesthetic. It is a refined and sensual aesthetic - not the dark, grungy aesthetic of de Sade. It draws upon the sensuality (and rich erotic heritage) of the Turks, Arabs, Persians, Berbers etc - all very sensual (and sexual) people. This oriental aesthetic is combined with a modern hardcore sensibility.
In the current aesthetic order sensuality tends to be equated with softcore. Hardcore tends to mean rough, ugly, harsh, violent. But in Code d' Ode, hardcore sexual play and sexual exploration is placed within a context of refinement and sensuality. An odalisque is a thing of beauty. Code d' Odalisque is a celebration of that beauty. But at the same time the odalisque is an object to be enjoyed and explored. Code d' Ode is about hardcore sexual exploration. The sensuality of the aesthetic does not mean "softcore".
There is no sado-masochism in Code d' Odalisque. And by extension there is no cult of ugliness. There is beauty, fantasy, mystery and there is excess, obsession, oblivion - the aesthetic context is sensual and sumptuous, drawing upon the rich traditions of the old orient. Code d' Odalisque revives odalisque slavery from the Ottoman empire. Accordingly, it draws upon the sensuality of that world, especially as it was *imagined* by Europeans in the Victorian and Edwardian eras.
Sunday, June 6, 2010
Slave, Whore and Slut
The framework of Code d' Odalisque is based in some simple distinctions between slut, whore and slave. All three can be highly sexed cocklovers, but only the slave is truly devoted to cock. The whore, of course, trades her sex. She expects something in return. The slut is a free agent who gives her sex away but also expects to move on. The slave gives everything, expects no reward and is going nowhere. The distinction between slave and slut might seem unclear because they are both cock-mad. But the slave is dedicated to one man and only enjoys other men as her Master commands. The slut is a free agent. She roams from man to man according to her own whims.
The Slut
The essential characteristic of the slut is that she is a free agent. Her independence is important to her. She loves sex and is highly erotic but her motivations are selfish. She sleeps with a man, then she moves on. Her freedom to move on is crucial to her. She cannot abide by restrictions. She does not want commitment and does not offer it. The slut type needs variety and hates to be tied down into a routine. Unlike the whore, the slut isn't usually bossy - she is independent and self-motivated. She has a rich imagination and needs freedom to explore. She is the most "masculine" of the three types. She is energetic and sexually aggressive. She is a seductress who actively seduces men. At a party you will find her actively flirting with men (often several men).
The Whore
The whore is not really interested in sex. Her motivations are more in what sex can get her. Her game is sexual extortion. She will sleep with a man and do whatever he wants provided it will get her what she wants. She lacks sexual imagination but is nevertheless wiley and calculating. She regards sex as a weapon, a means to an end, rather than as a thing in itself. The whore is a manager. She likes managing others and finding ways to get them to do her bidding. Compared to the slut she is lazy. Rather than seduce men she paints herself up and waits until they seduce her. At a party you will find her sitting and displaying herself to men, enticing them to come to her.
The Slave
The slave is neither a free agent like a slut nor an erotic extortionist like a whore. She has a genuine love of sex like the slut but has the whore's lack of imagination. She needs a man to guide her and to direct her explorations. She finds freedom in restriction. The slave loves defined boundaries and routine. She is the most "feminine" of the three types. She will happily commit (and submit) to a man because she calculates that this is the best way to get the sex she needs. She understands the paradox that selflessness is the surest way to achieve deep self satisfaction. At a party you will find her in a quiet corner trying not to be noticed. She would rather be in a quiet one-on-one situation.
The Slut
The essential characteristic of the slut is that she is a free agent. Her independence is important to her. She loves sex and is highly erotic but her motivations are selfish. She sleeps with a man, then she moves on. Her freedom to move on is crucial to her. She cannot abide by restrictions. She does not want commitment and does not offer it. The slut type needs variety and hates to be tied down into a routine. Unlike the whore, the slut isn't usually bossy - she is independent and self-motivated. She has a rich imagination and needs freedom to explore. She is the most "masculine" of the three types. She is energetic and sexually aggressive. She is a seductress who actively seduces men. At a party you will find her actively flirting with men (often several men).
The Whore
The whore is not really interested in sex. Her motivations are more in what sex can get her. Her game is sexual extortion. She will sleep with a man and do whatever he wants provided it will get her what she wants. She lacks sexual imagination but is nevertheless wiley and calculating. She regards sex as a weapon, a means to an end, rather than as a thing in itself. The whore is a manager. She likes managing others and finding ways to get them to do her bidding. Compared to the slut she is lazy. Rather than seduce men she paints herself up and waits until they seduce her. At a party you will find her sitting and displaying herself to men, enticing them to come to her.
The Slave
The slave is neither a free agent like a slut nor an erotic extortionist like a whore. She has a genuine love of sex like the slut but has the whore's lack of imagination. She needs a man to guide her and to direct her explorations. She finds freedom in restriction. The slave loves defined boundaries and routine. She is the most "feminine" of the three types. She will happily commit (and submit) to a man because she calculates that this is the best way to get the sex she needs. She understands the paradox that selflessness is the surest way to achieve deep self satisfaction. At a party you will find her in a quiet corner trying not to be noticed. She would rather be in a quiet one-on-one situation.
Unslutting
Question: What is "unslutting"? What does it mean to "unslut" a slave?
Answer: Unslutting is the name given to the process by which an odalisque (cockslave) learns the differences between being a slave and being a whore or a slut. Code d' Odalisque operates by making such distinctions clear. An odalisque is not a whore who expects reward for her service, and she is not a slut who expects to be a free agent. An odalisque is a sexual servant. She needs to learn exactly what this means. The training process that imposes these distinctions is called "unslutting".
Any woman who is strongly sexual is likely to have elements of slave, whore and slut in her psychology. Unslutting attempts to remove those elements which are typical of whore and slut and thus to make the woman a better slave. She must learn not to expect rewards for her services. And she must learn that her time and her will are not her own. Any characteristics that are whoreish or slutty should be discouraged. For example, attention-seeking is counted as a trait of whores and sluts. Whores especially advertise themselves. It is improper in a cockslave.
"Unslutting" is any training process or activity that helps to refine the slave and that makes her more fully an odalisque. Whores and sluts love sex, love cock, as well. But they are not odalisques. To "unslut" a slave means to teach her these differences.
Answer: Unslutting is the name given to the process by which an odalisque (cockslave) learns the differences between being a slave and being a whore or a slut. Code d' Odalisque operates by making such distinctions clear. An odalisque is not a whore who expects reward for her service, and she is not a slut who expects to be a free agent. An odalisque is a sexual servant. She needs to learn exactly what this means. The training process that imposes these distinctions is called "unslutting".
Any woman who is strongly sexual is likely to have elements of slave, whore and slut in her psychology. Unslutting attempts to remove those elements which are typical of whore and slut and thus to make the woman a better slave. She must learn not to expect rewards for her services. And she must learn that her time and her will are not her own. Any characteristics that are whoreish or slutty should be discouraged. For example, attention-seeking is counted as a trait of whores and sluts. Whores especially advertise themselves. It is improper in a cockslave.
"Unslutting" is any training process or activity that helps to refine the slave and that makes her more fully an odalisque. Whores and sluts love sex, love cock, as well. But they are not odalisques. To "unslut" a slave means to teach her these differences.
Friday, June 4, 2010
No wristwatches?
Question: I notice that somewhere in Code d' Odalisque it makes a rule that gentlemen who are involved in orgies and sex should not wear wristwatches. Why not? Why have rules like that? Does it matter?
It doesn't really matter, no. People are free to take what they want from Code d' Odalisque, and to adapt it to their own preferences and circumstances. Some people, though, are purists and will want to follow the rules to the letter.
The article about wristwatches reads:
24.26. - Wristwatches forbidden on naked players
The wearing of wristwatches by otherwise naked players during play is improper.
This is just a matter of etiquette. They are not strictly forbidden, but "improper" - which is to say in poor taste. It is a matter of style. But players are not bound by it.
This part of the Code -like many others - became part of the protocols of play in the early phases of the Code's development. You should appreciate that the people promoting and guiding Code d' Ode today are not actually the people who wrote the original documents. It seems that the people who wrote the original documents had a thing about guys wearing wristwatches and insisted that they take them off as part of being fully naked. This rule stuck. And, in fact, most people find it is OK as a rule. Our own experience is that - yes - it is rather "improper" for a gentleman to wear a wristwatch during an orgy.
There may be a symbolism one could construe from the rule - namely that odalisque play is not subject to time. It is about leisure. Another article of the Code points out that "All haste is of the devil." Why would you need to wear a wristwatch during sex? Are you keeping an eye of the time?
These days a more pressing issue is turning off mobile phones. If we were writing the Code today we would include an article that insists that gentlemen turn off their mobile phones and other electronic devices during orgia. Mobile phones ringing during an orgy is most improper.
It doesn't really matter, no. People are free to take what they want from Code d' Odalisque, and to adapt it to their own preferences and circumstances. Some people, though, are purists and will want to follow the rules to the letter.
The article about wristwatches reads:
24.26. - Wristwatches forbidden on naked players
The wearing of wristwatches by otherwise naked players during play is improper.
This is just a matter of etiquette. They are not strictly forbidden, but "improper" - which is to say in poor taste. It is a matter of style. But players are not bound by it.
This part of the Code -like many others - became part of the protocols of play in the early phases of the Code's development. You should appreciate that the people promoting and guiding Code d' Ode today are not actually the people who wrote the original documents. It seems that the people who wrote the original documents had a thing about guys wearing wristwatches and insisted that they take them off as part of being fully naked. This rule stuck. And, in fact, most people find it is OK as a rule. Our own experience is that - yes - it is rather "improper" for a gentleman to wear a wristwatch during an orgy.
There may be a symbolism one could construe from the rule - namely that odalisque play is not subject to time. It is about leisure. Another article of the Code points out that "All haste is of the devil." Why would you need to wear a wristwatch during sex? Are you keeping an eye of the time?
These days a more pressing issue is turning off mobile phones. If we were writing the Code today we would include an article that insists that gentlemen turn off their mobile phones and other electronic devices during orgia. Mobile phones ringing during an orgy is most improper.
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